Truly Powerful People (451)

Join me in inspiring truly powerful people. Each day I will add a new thought, story or idea to support your quest and mine.

Warning: this post may or may not be shameless self-promotion disguised as a blog post: I can’t decide. Also, I am given to exaggeration so, in addition to being on alert for hidden agendas, you may not want to believe a thing I write. Enter at your own risk (and so on).

Romeo and Juliet is a tragic tale because young lovers have no sense of time. They believe they are immortal so their pain seems eternal. Options do not occur to 14 year-old lovers who can only see as far as they feel. Joy is all encompassing. Pain is all consuming. For young lovers, circumstance and story are the same thing. Had they lived long enough to have a mortgage, a fight or two, time enough for Romeo to do the laundry and wash the reds with the whites, for Juliet to clean house and toss Romeo’s favorite fraternity mug, they might have taken banishment in stride. Instead, they acted impulsively and made a mess of things.

I carried my Romeo and Juliet phase well into my thirties. I made a mess of things. Repeatedly. There was no relationship I could not destroy, no career I could not sabotage, no opportunity I could not ruin, no creative impulse I could not imprison. I stepped into the forest where there was no path and broke a lot of branches, fell over every log as my eyes were searching the sky. Highs were high, lows were dark, and balance was a nice word with no socket to plug into. I banished myself, drank my poison, beat my breast in despair and died more than once. And, one day, I wondered why I was telling myself a story of woe. I wondered what other stories were available to me. And, since I am essentially a teacher, I set about to teach myself how to tell a different story. As Joseph Campbell said, “We must be willing to get rid of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” I had to get rid of an old story to see a path to the new story. And then I learned that the only reason to tell a new story was to learn to let go of story altogether. In this, I found wise guides and a plethora of helpful maps.

Recently I began to teach what I have learned (and continue to learn). The “how to let go of an old story” workbook is now an ebook. It’s called The Ground Truth: Six Dynamic Relationships That Will Change Your Life. It’s a bold claim; sorting out the six relationships cleaned the debris from my story and helped me see beyond my garbage layer. So far it is helping others do the same. Sho tells me it’s the real deal and I have no reason to doubt him.

The wise guides and helpful maps I found are…stories. There is a reason our ancestors told stories and the reason was to help us know how to live better lives, how to fulfill our desires, creative impulses, and navigate the fear. The stories served as a map as I navigated my rocky internal geography. I had to learn to read the map in the story and am teaching this, too. The “how to read a story as a map” workbook, now ebook, is called Seek The Bear: A Story-Map For Transforming Your Life. Both are now available through my site at Buy them. Tell your friends about them. Tell your enemies. They make odd holiday gifts and since you are embracing your inner odd (whether you know it or not), it would serve you to give them liberally.

I intend to send a ripple and you are my rock (how’s that for a metaphor! Recently, someone likened me to prime rib so the metaphor door is wide open). Believe it or not, ripple or no, there is a better story – and remember – I gave you fair warning.

2 Responses

  1. “Embracing your inner odd” made me smile. Love this, David. Love you, too. 🙂

  2. Every step of my story is informed by what I learn from you. Thank you.

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