The Direction of Intention

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Today’s word is from the “language-is-more-powerful-than-you-know” file; it is the word ‘should.’ These six letters are at the center of most of the misery stories and resistance I encounter as a coach.

Should is a river that runs away from the heart.

Should is a foggy-noggin word dedicated to obscuring what you want by convincing yourself that you need to meet the expectations of others. Doing what you assume others want you to do or be (valuing others needs above your own is guaranteed to keep you lost in the fog and inevitably make you a breeder of resentment).

Should is a word guaranteed to split you: one piece of you forcing another piece of you to do something while a third piece of you watches and berates you no matter what you do.

Should absolves you from fulfilling your own dreams by affording you the belief that you are in service to others (note: true service is a choice and you’ll recognize it because it does not deplete you).

Should sometimes comes in disguise and sounds a lot like “can’t” or “because” or “have to” or “we tried that already” or “I really want to but….”

Should delights in sounding like an authority especially in subjects it knows nothing about. For instance, there are lots of people who will tell you what you should do or what you should be and will feign a wound if you do something else (like what you want to do).

To twist a Yoda-ism (There is no try. Do or do not do): Choose or ‘should’ will choose for you.

Truly powerful people are dedicated to inspiring true power in others because they have learned what happens when a person finally releases their “shoulds.”

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